I read this online today...it is thoughtfortheday,org.uk.....

Healing Power of Spirituality 
The deepest wounds we all carry are locked in our subconscious (out of our awareness). Deep memories and subtle impressions, from unfinished experience, rooted in the past. The pain from those wounds comes to revisit; to block and paralyze us in the moment called now. We all know it comes without warning - “Why am I feeling this way, I didn’t mean to do that, I don’t know what made me say that.” Healing does not mean finding and treating every single inner scar. It means going even deeper, past the wounds, to the core of our spirit, where we find the light and warmth of our own core qualities of love and peace. That’s what heals. That’s why it’s called spirituality and not therapy.

Most of the time I find answers when I write...today I found what I was looking for by reading what someone else wrote.  I couldn't have written it better.  this is what I needed to hear.